Ever find yourself feeling complacent? You feel as though you have accomplished the basics of what you thought would consist of a happy, stable, life but still feel as though something is missing? You get that melancholy feeling of “Ok. Now what?”
We’re always taught that the basic goals in life are to finish school, get a job, make good money, have a roof over our head, and get stuck in the whole rinse-and-repeat cycle every day. For some, this may be appealing. I mean, who doesn’t want a stable life where you no longer have to depend on your parents and you have a stable job that pays for your own place, all your bills, and a car to drive to that same job every day? Isn’t that what adulthood is all about? Not for me.
Aside from accomplishing what are often seen as the “basic requirements” of life — moving out, finishing school, getting a good job, and having your own place — it’s important start focusing on finding meaning in your life. Most people do that by getting married and having children. Being a good parent and raising productive members of society becomes their meaning. Some people find meaning through their careers. Edrian and I aren’t exactly the type of couple to easily have a child whenever we want. I’m also a person who, although loves my job and what I do for a living, doesn’t center my entire identity and purpose in life around what I do between 9am and 5pm.
I’ve always had an interest in traveling the world and seeing what’s out there, to become more knowledgeable about the world, and to find new and exciting ways to challenge myself through different situations. I was lucky enough to have found a partner that shares that same passion. We don’t have the privilege of packing our bags and boarding an airplane anytime we want, but after strategic planning and budgeting, we are fortunate enough to take at least 1 to 2 big trips every year.
After our trip to France in 2018, we couldn’t help but fall in love with the place. Even over a year later, we find ourselves constantly talking about it and reminiscing about all the things we did and people we met. This brought up the crazy idea of possibly living there one day. It seemed like a pipe dream at first but then I went on Youtube and saw quite a number of expats who chose to do just that — pick up and move somewhere strange and starting a new life. This is something I actually want to consider doing. I know it’s not going to be easy. But I truly believe it could be worth it.
It’s going to be a long, difficult, and possibly frustrating process, but nothing is impossible if you want it bad enough. France seems to have a growing Tech Startup scene — perfect with my degree. I never thought I’d be in a position where I actually wanted to be uncomfortable so I could grow. But perhaps this is just my soul telling me it’s time for something more.
Are you an expat? How was your journey? What advice would you give someone like me?
More on this subject in the months to come….